Ever wondered about Coaching?
I want to write about the coaching experience. I know it is hard to undertake coaching. Sometimes the hardest part is just the realisation you need support (it definitely was for me). It’s both an act of kindness for yourself and an act of courage.
It starts with a decision to just want more for yourself.
When coaching begins, the emotions easily flow. I usually observe that there is such a build-up, a huge back-log of emotion, waiting for a safe space so that they can be released. People are often surprised at just how much there is. It’s a relief to just get it out and release it.
If you’re open to it, coaching allows you to express these emotions without judgement or fear. It is so much easier when you don’t have to do it on your own. This alone is so healing.
We can then start to go a bit deeper, and this is where the work starts. This is when we can examine what’s going on underneath, what beliefs or fears are under the surface driving your thoughts and your experience. Change these, and your whole perspective can change.
Coaching helps bring awareness to things, and with awareness, you get to choose consciously.
Coaching can be reassuring, validating and healing. It can unstuck you. It can give you insights. It’s usually messy, non-linear, and always individual.
Somewhere along the way it will probably become uncomfortable, even confronting. The questions can be hard. This may make us want to stop but this is usually when the break-throughs happen. Real benefit comes from staying in the process.
Coaching is something that has helped me tremendously. I get how it feels on your side. It is something I wish I had early in my journey but it took me a long time to realise I needed help. My mindset then was to soldier on, think positive, and never give up hope. It ended up being a tough gig to maintain.
Coaching would have helped me soften. It would have helped me feel supported and less alone. It would have helped me in my grief. It would have helped me move towards acceptance. It would have helped me find genuine hope. It may have prevented the huge break downs that happened!
My own experience was my motivation to develop my skills as a coach. I know what it feels like to desperately want a baby and I know what it feels like to be on the other side of that. I know what it feels like to struggle to find the right person to talk to. I’ve learnt so much along the way, and I want to be here for you. You matter. Your journey matters.